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In the event of a tragic incident in Fire District 7, we offer a helping hand by providing a chaplain at the incident scene. Many times the crews are quickly called back into service after an untimely tragedy and the chaplains are there to help sort things out with the victim's family. Our chaplains respond as quickly as possible and have the unique ability to console grieving family members of those involved in sudden, tragic circumstances.
District 7 chaplains are members of our community who volunteer their time in an effort to help those in need. If you are interested in serving and or supporting the Chaplain Program in some capacity, please contact our Chaplain Coordinator Ken Vickers at kvickers@firedistrict7.com or 425-486-1217 / 360-668-5357.

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The question of when to begin a process of completing relationships that have ended due to death is confused by conflicting opinions from a wide variety of sources. Medical, psychological, societal and family experts all approach the issue from differing perspectives.

It is not at all uncommon to hear of people being told, by their Professional, "it's Too Soon to begin your grief work, you're not ready yet." Imagine that you have fallen down and gashed your leg. Imagine that blood is gushing from the wound. Imagine someone walking by and saying: "it's Too Soon, you are not ready for medical attention yet."

Now, imagine that circumstances and events have broken your heart. Imagine that you are experiencing the massive and conflicting feelings caused by significant emotional loss. Imagine a friend, or worse, a professional, saying to you: "it's Too Soon, you are not ready for emotional attention yet."

This is an area that is so filled with misinformation that it is often difficult to fight through to the truth. We have been falsely educated to believe that grievers want and need to be alone. We have been incorrectly socialized to avoid the topic of the loss, in an attempt to protect the griever.

Here is the simple truth: most grievers want and need to talk about "What Happened" and their relationship with that person or event. They want and need to talk about it almost immediately following the loss. It pre-occupies them, just as the person with the gashed leg is pre-occupied with their accident and their treatment and their recovery. Those who do not want to talk about it will let you know.

When a person learns of the death of a loved one, an almost automatic review process begins. This process may be conscious or unconscious; usually both. In reviewing the relationship, the griever remembers many events that occurred over the length of the relationship. Some of the events are happy and produce fond memories; some are unhappy and produce sad memories.

During this automatic review the griever will usually discover some things that they wish they'd had an opportunity to say, things they wish had ended "different, better, or more." It is those unsaid things that need to be discovered and completed.

The review is most intense and most accurate in the time immediately following the death. It is the time when we are most focused on the person who died and our relationship with them. We will rarely have another opportunity to remember with such detail and intensity. This is the circumstance where "time" not only doesn't heal, but also diminishes our memory as we move further away from the death itself.

We will refrain from offering any concrete definition as to the "time" involved. Every griever is unique. Every griever responds at their own pace. It is essential never to compare one griever to another. Each and every griever has their own individual beliefs about dealing with their feelings of loss. Each griever is remembering their own individual relationship with the people who died.

The Fire District 7 Chaplain program provides the families of our district an outlet for such times. Our Chaplains respond within minuets of being requested and have the unique ability to console grieving family members of those involved in sudden tragic circumstances. If you are interested in becoming involved with our Chaplain program, contact our headquarters at 425-486-1217.
Updated 11/12/09 15:23
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